Human nature
Destination drivers and path pursuers
Some people are all about where they want to go, others are more into the way they’re taking. Are you a destination driver or a path pursuer?
Doc Ayomide
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In sickness and in health
Is it dishonest to reduce your goals if you’re sick? An essay on the sick role and the power of "allowing yourself morning”.
Writing
Fear is a dead dragon
I wanted to write since secondary school, but it took until uni to start. That’s what fear can do to you. But with help I learned to face it.
Healthcare
What are you willing to trade?
What if you thought about all your decisions as a series of micro-transactions at the Stock Exchange of Reality? Let’s think about that through the lens of medication side effects.
Relationships
It takes a village
On family—nuclear, extended and mine—and why Winnicott's “good enough parent” is one of my favourite concepts in psychology.On family—nuclear, extended and mine—and why Winnicott's “good enough parent” is one of my favourite concepts in psychology.
Human nature
Success is how you define it
How successful you feel is often more about how you define success than it's about what you've achieved. That’s not just to feel good—it’s the most practical thing.
Relationships
Living on your terms
How I went from being a pushover to speaking up for myself, asking for what I wanted and refusing what I didn’t.
Fiction
Devils and details
My first bit of fiction: A policeman's ordinary day gets turned upside down.
Christianity
Living in return
The first time I returned to faith was on a balcony in my medical school. I’ve returned a few more times since. This is what that’s been like.
Human nature
Giving the performance of my life
I’ve never been been a natural performer. So it’s nerve-wracking to know you’re being judged by how well you perform. But that’s how engaging with humans works, and like everyone else I’ve had to figure it out.
Human nature
Sometimes I get tired of me.
A friend recently asked if I ever feel life is futile. My first thought: "You mean that permanent feeling on my mental horizon?" Here's how I live with it.
Human nature
When you make a mistake…
What do you do when you get it wrong? Just keep going.