Human nature
Ignore your way to happiness
If you were promised £50 and got £100 you’d be delighted. If you'd been promised £200 you’d feel cheated. Same £100, different expectations.
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Empathy
I don’t want to be “nice”
I'm suspicious of nice people. Or, to be precise, people who have niceness as an ideal. Allow me to explain…
Human nature
Light against darkness, hope against hope
What do you do when it feels like all hope is lost? You can hope on, anyway.
Communication
Stories are like maps, facts are like photos
Stories are like maps, facts are like photos. Here’s why…
Human nature
How to be a hypocrite
If you’re going to be a better person tomorrow, you’re going to have to act the part—"fake it 'til you make it", so to speak.
Communication
You’re not lazy. You just need better feedback.
Great feedback is like a map: and it can transform your life. Here’s the story of how that happened for a friend and for me.
Relationships
Take kids seriously by not taking yourself too seriously
The two adults who had the greatest impact on me growing up took me seriously—but didn't take themselves too seriously.
Human nature
Weaknesses are strengths turned inside out
We think of strengths and weaknesses as 2 things, when they’re 2 sides of a coin. Dunno your strengths? Begin by considering your weaknesses.
Pain and Recovery
Dealing with pain? Try distraction.
What’s the difference between repression and suppression, between denial and distraction? Join me to explore how we deal with emotional pain.
culture
Circles of obligation
For a typical Nigerian, a small wedding is maybe 300 guests. That's big in the UK: The difference is due to circles of obligation.
Christianity
“Love your neighbour” doesn’t mean what we think
“Love your neighbour as yourself” doesn't mean you can't love yourself until you love your neighbour. Here's what it's really about…
Christianity
Can you bring faith to work?
Can we really keep faith and work separate? It’s a question any person of faith has to deal with. I had to face just this question with a recent patient. Like a lot of patients who show up in the emergency room for psychiatric assessment, what she was experiencing